We try daily and I swear we do. We talk, we discuss, we argue, we walk out,
we come back again and we do the same things over and over, yet... Yet we
cannot understand why we cannot find anything to love about each other?
Is it because we are in a second marriage and are too old to
change our ways? Or is it that we do not
have any in-laws, any children together or even a joint investment (like a
house) to bind us together?
Right now I just wish to be away from him to do my own stuff.
2 comments:
I hear you Dear. Am going thru something similar here so hugs your way.
Here's the thing. See if it works. What are the biggest issues between you'll. If you haven't yet, list them all. Pick the one that you both kinda agree is easier to solve or try to solve the first half of this year and will your very best to work on. Discard the rest for now. Keep them on back burner. Set a few milestones to achieve and steps to achieving them. Be as specific as you and he can be and handshake on it. And then try as hell to get started and keep going even when it is tough. Do not bring up any of the other issues, just work this one out all the way to finish line. It takes the pressure off and the expectation set is just a tad easier to bear.
For me currently this goal is discussing our emotional lives. He never wants to know my feelings whereas I feel like I'm living with an amiable but somewhat emotionally distant roommate. This is very important now because I have a terminal disease and shutting down will not help. We have many other issues but for now I'm happy we are working atleast on this one. Not easy but doable.
Deepa
Hi Deepa - thanks for being the only person who puts in a comment. I love replying to yours.
Yes, you have a point there and I am planning to do a post on it.
Hope you have a great success with your plan :)
Chinty.
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