Bottling up has never been my forte. NEVER. Especially when the news is about me......
So who all know about this......
Mom, Brother & Sister-In Law - Because DH had gone missing for three days. And I had to consult these people to figure out whether I should make a missing person report at the Police Station. Yes, I tried calling his mobile, but it was always switched off. By the end of the third day, I had hacked his email and got information of his jaunts and whereabouts.
Friend #1 - Not from office. Single. Because I needed to talk to someone.
Friend #2 - From office. About 52 years old. Because I needed to find out what options the company had for single mothers. Someone I trust and deeply respect. Just celebrated her 25th wedding anniversary!
That is it. (maybe it is already one too many)
So who all know about this......
Mom, Brother & Sister-In Law - Because DH had gone missing for three days. And I had to consult these people to figure out whether I should make a missing person report at the Police Station. Yes, I tried calling his mobile, but it was always switched off. By the end of the third day, I had hacked his email and got information of his jaunts and whereabouts.
Friend #1 - Not from office. Single. Because I needed to talk to someone.
Friend #2 - From office. About 52 years old. Because I needed to find out what options the company had for single mothers. Someone I trust and deeply respect. Just celebrated her 25th wedding anniversary!
That is it. (maybe it is already one too many)
4 comments:
it's okay. whatever you need at this time to cope, to get thru, to be okay.
Hugs again and love your way.
Deepa
came to ur blog after a long gap and was shocked to read whatever has happened..I have no words to say except to say be strong..
This too shall pass..so just keep going and be strong
Dear Chinty, I understand that you are going through the toughest time of your life. Hang in there and I hope you will come out stronger.
All the comments that I have read so far are against your husband. And why not?! After all he went behind your back to have an affair. The most cowardly act! But though I wish he had acted with more integrity, I also think that these painful times could be used by you to reflect upon your life and behavior.
I know that you will find love again, but I also think that you must have a greater self-awareness to understand what you need from life and the person you are going to share that life with. Please analyze how your obsession with money and your husband's lack thereof must have created the distance between you two. In this post you lament about how you never took a vacation with your husband. But in one of your previous posts you had written this: “I don’t believe in taking vacations together – we go to India every year don’t we, so why spend more money elsewhere.” So did your husband want to go away with you, but you decided not to? Are you just concentrating on his negatives and not being ready to look at his qualities? What made you fall in love with this guy? What changed?
Chinty, I am not saying this to rub salt on your wound. I don’t know you, but I want everyone in this world to be happy and to be in love. I have been married for more than 10 years and in a happy one, if I may say so. But we do work on our marriage even now. I have learnt that men crave for their egos to be pampered. He might be respected by the whole world, but if his wife doesn’t think too much about him he is one unhappy and bitter guy. Home is a place where they can be themselves, a place they yearn to come back to. Make them feel wanted in EVERY way! I am a huge feminist, but to me this is how I embrace my feminine side and use the power that comes along with it! ;)
Feel free not to publish this. Love and hugs. May you find true happiness soon.
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