Update

Sometimes you ask yourself why does the Universe keep throwing these hurdles at you every now and then. Why is that despite being a parent I can’t be a real mother to my son? Why this and why that?

You cry, you curse and you tear yourself up trying to find answers and then in a split second an answer comes along, an answer you never, ever thought of before.

I have been taking rounds of lawyer’s offices ever since A’s visa got refused. In the meanwhile, my parents have been scouting the country side to find a school for my son. After all, in pursuit of a visa A should not lose one year of school, especially now that he is in grade 9.

And guess what? Not only did they find a school in India and a fantastic school at that; but my son fell in love with the place at first sight. Forget the fact that I will have to fork out £3,000 pounds a year in fees, it is the type of schooling that I could never afford in the UK. Many of you know that I live in Southall, which is not exactly the type of place for a kid to grow up. I was being selfish I guess, I want him to live with me. I want to baby my son for the next four years before he becomes an adult.

So I haven’t stopped being optimistic. I will file for the appeal and I will go ahead with plans of getting the settlement visa for A. But I am no longer scared, no longer worried, no longer do I have to choose between living with my husband in UK or living with my son in India. My son has found his place and I have found my peace.

Whatever life dishes out to me, my son and I will endure and we will fight it out and be the ultimate winners.

Like my introduction says – If life is all about will-power, I want to know how long I will last.

Amen to that.

PS: Thought I would share an emotional line out of my appeal letter:

“In support of my son’s application, no additional evidence was provided simply because I was stupid to believe that no force or law in this world could separate me from my son after all the ordeal we have been through. You will note that we did not take the service of a lawyer to file the application which is what normally happens. After all the application was of a young son wanting to join his mother.”